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Here is the advice column, you can ask about anything, love, family, friendship, homework XD, anything! or if you have a problem, feel free to share about ^^ Because we're a big family and we're all here to be with you! *Big Hug*
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Oooh, most definitely! Were all a big happy, happy family~! [hugs you all 'til your blue] <3 :heh:
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Neat....ok here goes
There was a Korean exchnage student I really liked, but he left last eyar to go back. We exchanged email, gifts etc...
Should I keep in contact, and try to keep up the relationship? Or just let us drift apart?
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its great to have a penpal...i dont see y you should not keep up the relationship~ :) having a friend is a nice thing :D
i sure hope my penpal was like yours...coz there was once my school had this exchange of email addresses with a school in japan, but so many of the japanese students dont reply back after 3-4 times *sad*, i was very eager then too...
i'd like some advice, my new school has cultural programmes , of which 2 i'm very interested in: japanese traditional culture, japanese teen culture. coz i'm taking japanese when school starts, i thought either of these 2 will help better understand the japanese language. i was juz wondering which i should pick....
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Ummm....it depends on what u plan to do...
Traditional would be good if u want to understand Japan's history, and it's influence...
But Teen would be good for a more up to date look. I'd go for traditional - modern Japan is increasingly becoming westernised, so the teen culture may turn out to be western culture!
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Well, the movies and film will prob focus on Japanese motion pics, like
The Grudge
The Ring etc.
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Ruby-chan, I think you should keep in contact if you really like this guy. He obviously means something to you so pursue and go on with the relationship. If he doesn't reply then I guess you should move on. There's no point in getting pissed off at a guy that lives thousands of miles away. ^^;
Tune, not all japanese students are like that where they leave you hangin'. They probably have something going on like school, relationships, friends, relatives dying etc. Either that or they just don't have the time to sit down and write a long letter to you. Everybody has busy lives but if they wanna be that way then let them.
If you are interested in the japanese culture then it all depends on what you decide to want to learn. Do you wanna learn about the myths and times of the people in Japan back then or do you wanna focus directly on Japanese teens. What do the courses offer first of all? Which of them interest you the most? Whichever does appeal to you, I say you pick them!
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Thanx, Sya0ran....I'll email him tonight : )
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the program of interacting wif the japanese students lasted 2 yrs...thats the prob, and its 3 yrs ago now~ :P
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Don't worry about penpals not replying...I was in a programme with french students, and they stopped replying. We kept sending letters, but they didn't send back....
Any more clues about which to study?
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nopez....the sessions are 30 min per lesson, once a week for 1 semester (3 mths) only, its pretty short. so i can take traditional culture for my 1st then teen culture 2nd....i'm hoping to take french culture 3rd~ :D
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Cool! That sounds like a good plan....not sure about the french culture though....
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Anytime. :D My middle school had a japanese student exchange too and its been what, 2 years now and I still talk to my best friend Kimiko. =) It just shows that not all exchange student programs leave you hanging without a new friend. ^^;
Lmao. Seriously, Ruby-chan? Well, try introducing yourself again and asking him how he's holding up. Ahh...Tune that's awesome. Short but a wonderful learninng experience! :heh:
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too true, its my 1st student exchange program anyway~ :D
but i think that french culture beats chinese business studies *ooo...headaches* the french culture has quite a vague description....films, traditions, culture, fashion...i'm more interested in the bakery portion of french though~~ :D
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they might have to make it a full-time course~~YAY~~~!!!, then i'll have to spend over 1000 for that course like all the others (the government subsidises 9000+), but i wont mind~ :D
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Well, the movies and film will prob focus on Japanese motion pics, like
The Grudge
The Ring
House Of Flying Daggers etc.
I dont like the Grudge there is a attic in my closet just like the movie. :icon_pale:
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those....come to think of it...are ghost stories arent they????? *AHHH* fake, i'm not really borthered by ghost stories so i dont bother seeing them...but i dont like them what so ever...*shivers* juz sent the application form *hope i get the traditional culture course*
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Topic cleaned up a little due to a off-topicness
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ok this is an advice column thing right??
well i have a problem.. although i'm the advice giver out of all my friends, i'm out of advice and don't know what to do..
my friend likes this guy but something really bad happened that made her change her mind on him.. what should she do?? i mean like should she still give the guy a chance or say no?? and believe me the thing he did was bad..
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ok this is an advice column thing right??
well i have a problem.. although i'm the advice giver out of all my friends, i'm out of advice and don't know what to do..
my friend likes this guy but something really bad happened that made her change her mind on him.. what should she do?? i mean like should she still give the guy a chance or say no?? and believe me the thing he did was bad..
Well, it really depends on what he did. Mind telling me what he did so I can further my analysis and try my best to give you the right advice to give your friend. :keke:
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haha.. thanks for the help.. but looks like my friend handled it..
*sigh and might i add not in the best way either.. man.. i feel so bad right now..
guess i'll ask a question.. hmm what would you do if you liked a guy/girl for around 2 years and can't stop liking them.. you tried saying you hated them but you end up helping and liking them still.. and now s/he has a bf/gf but you still like him..
what should you do? well techinally this is my problem right now.. *sigh..
if you want a more detailed story i'll PM you because it's pretty personal.. but that's the main idea..
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Oh, okay then. That was fast though (referring to your friends problem). XD Wow, really? I'm going through the exact same thing as you except I've known him for 3 years. The thing is that he's mean to me and insults me. He's nice to everyone else but me. Everybody says its his way of showing he cares. :shifty:
So, I'm stuck in the same boat as you. Birds of a feather, flock together. :heh:
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Wow, that is a major common problem.
hehe, I'm in that exact situation.
I've liked this guy (secretly) for about 3 years and he's been nothing but a jerk to me...
He's extortioned me, made fun of me, embarassed me, heck, he even sprained my wrist in PE (he tripped me in kickball and I fell on my arm funny) and he never even apologized.
Blah, I know I'm a total idiot, loser, dumby, again loser, but I just can't help it.
Darn....
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so....its a 1-sided love?...then i think you should take it easy and befriend him, not being a couple doesnt mean that you 2 can nvr see each other again right?
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haha i am friends with him
whoo me, endoh, and sya0ran are all in the same boat.. LMAO!! haha
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so....its a 1-sided love?...then i think you should take it easy and befriend him, not being a couple doesnt mean that you 2 can nvr see each other again right?
Not too sure about that for me. its probably different for Endoh and Lika-chan. .>>; I wanna tell him how I feel but he lives like miles away since I moved. I keep in contact though by calling him and calling my other friends to tell him hi. I even told him I missed him and he confessed and missed me too. =] Not sure what to feel really...
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oo well i don't see him as much now.. plus he has a girlfriend too.. so i can't do anything about it.. i just saw him 2 days ago..
my friend told me that he knew that i liked him but i don't know what now. because that was a while ago.. XD.. hehe.. yup yup
well he cares about me and stuff but then again we have this family thing and he's my 'big brother' so mainly why he cares a lot about me.. XD and i care about him too.. but he only sees me as a little sister.. *sigh
one-sided love wouldn't really be it i think because that would only be in an relationship like my friends.. i mean like he might be a stuff.. but i'm not sure..
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Ahhh...okay...my situation IS different.
Bah...I wouldn't say "love" I'd say "infatuation". Even if the guy is total pain in the behind. He's in my English class but he completely ignores me.
I told him I liked him back in grade 7 but he never said anything about it. I guess I should be glad he didn't make a big deal out of it....but I would have liked some sort of reply like, "Sorry, not interested." or even, "Get away from me you freak of nature!!!"
But nope...he said Nothin'!
[over dramatic sigh]
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oo don't feel like that.. but then that guy sort of sounds like a jerk.. and i guess a reply should have at least been said.. LMAO!!
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The guy I like is like that too, except I never told him. I never told anyone until I moved away from him and then I told my friends. To me, its as if they were expecting this to happen to me. :shifty: xP He doesn't have a girlfriend at the moment but he is looking. I'll try to make this little rant short so I can give you guys thte lowdown on my situation...^^;
I call my best friend Maria who lives near my "crush" Robert (that's his name..) and we both decide to 3-way him. he answers and we all talk and talk. He then tells Maria he thinks her friend is hott who is also my friend Susanna. x.x; He starts saying how hott she is and for Maria to give herr his number.
I stayed quiet of course, I even believed deep inside my heart that I was in love with him. Maybe I was... Well, Maria said yeah, she'll give his number to Susanna and then Maria had to go so we said our goodbyes. I said bye quietly and just as I was about to hangup I hear Robert yell out an oddly enthusiastic goodbye. "Bye Lourie!" and that's that. Heh...it hurt me that they were having a conversation like that. >>;
On the next phone call though I called him myself. No Maria and no other friends, just me and him talking. He started insulting me and I insulted back...daily routine. I asked him why he was so mean and always had to innsult me after every sentence that left my mouth. He said its because I do it first. o.O;
Then, I blurt out by accident that I missed him out of nowhere. -_- Wrong move...I thought he was gonna laugh and make fun of me but he didn't. He stayed oddly quiet and just laughed nervously. I asked him if he missed me and he said yeah, he did. The whole conversation seemed to revolve around him (in his perspective..hmph!). He always seemed to have the comeback, "You know you love me" after everything I said. I'd reply and say, "Yeah...sure. I love you too." Note the sarcasm, apparently he didn't catch that. :shifty:
So, yeah. There's a little mini story I thought I'd tell you guys. I don't know what to do really. I have a current bf but I'm having feelings for another one. Its wrong, I know but my feelings came out of nowhere. The moment I heard Robert's voice I was crushing on him again. >.<; :confused:
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Ahh! I hate that!
I remember in grade 6, I liked another piece of work, Austin. He was sexist, racist and everything else in between. And again, I was crazy about him. Bah!
I finally got over him....and I didn't think about him at all during the summer...or even the next year! But in grade 8, we ended up in the same class and we ended being partners for many projects. He was still the same dillhole he always has been but the second I found out he was in my class, BAM! I liked him again....
So, I liked two evil people.
I'm so stupid.
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nope, itz not stupid, itz a crush....
i really have no experience for this sorta things....hmmz....i dont have probs like this coz ppl steer away fr me naturally and i'll steer away fr ppl too, -case closed-
imo...if you really like some1, you should confess seriously, or the person might think its a rude joke, even if they reject you on the spot, theres no need to feel sadden coz itz not the end of the world and you juz prevented a horrible future of being in a 1-sided love where the person doesnt react naturally to your feelings/actions.
to say the truth....ppl like us should not be involved in affairs like these now coz we are students *unless you are not you can ignore this paragraph*, and students need to do well in studies or we'll let down ppl who care about us....and if the person you really like is for you, he/she'll respect that the time for relationships is not during the early education period of life. loving some1 is also respecting the person~ :)
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Do you guys realise this is exactly like Sakura and Syaoran?! Take a leaf out of Sakura's book, and keep trying!
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Do you guys realise this is exactly like Sakura and Syaoran?! Take a leaf out of Sakura's book, and keep trying!
Your right...it is a lot like Syaoran and Sakura's situation. XD I swear I didn't realize it at all. :heh: Well, thanks you guys. I'll get the courage to tell him...someday. :shifty: xP
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well were all rooting for you Sya0ran ^_^ good luck :D
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well were all rooting for you Sya0ran ^_^ good luck :D
XD When you said that, for a split second there I felt like I was a guy. o__O; Erm...nevernind. Its early in the morniing here and I'm uhh...weird. lol Thanks though, I'll see if I can do it. ^^;
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LOL, uh.. how about
You GO GIRL !! Get THAT GUY !! ^_^
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^_^ lol... that's cute.. I have my own cute-truned-to-horrible-turned-to-okay-turned-to-more-horrible-story... o_O.. you don't wanna know.. I'm crushing on someone since I was a fourth grade!! XD up until now.. but yea, as i said.. it turned more horrible..... XD
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Lmao @ Vexnet. Yeah, that made me feel waaaay better. :shifty: lol Ying Fa, tell us. We can help out, that's what this thread is for. :heh:
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^^;; ehe.. sorry
and Ying-Fa ... how can it keep getting more horrible o.O
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Vex, I was just kidding. XD Ying Fa, its nice expressing how you feel. Its that bad? (your relationshp with him) :heh:
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haha although you guys didn't exactly give out advice for me.. HAHA!! i think we guys are saying to tell the person i like him.. is that it???
o maybe it's just directed to sya0ran.. hmm AH!! i'm too confused..
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Ok, I have a new prob, one that I've been thinkng about for a logn time
My best friend often uses me, and says stuff like 'I won't be ur best friend if u don't......we're meant to be best friends, and a best friend would do that!'
People also say she's the one that destroyed my confidence, and made me so shy, by shutting me down all the time....
So what should I do? Should I ditch her? She's nice occasionally....
I'm so confused....
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I used to have a friend like that too. She just kept on using me whenever she felt like it and then leaving me to face my own problems whenever she felt like it -_-Â After a while, I started ignoring her and now we don't talk to each other. It's so much better without having her around :keke: ~Â *I do whatever I want whenever I like now :D*
But I guess it's harder for you to do that, Ruby Chan, if she's your best friend and if you don't have any other good friends... :sweatdrop:
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well i'm not really sure how you friend is.. so i can't really just say you should ditch her..
my best friend is like that.. but doesn't say that.. but she bosses me around.. and she knows that i can't say no to her.. i mean like whenever i go to her house after school or whenever.. and i eat.. she's like wash the dishes since i did that last time.. or like telling me to do all these things..
she can't be really mean sometimes..
but if she's truely a friend you can't find anywhere else don't ditch her.. i mean like maybe try talking to her.. if she doesn't get it through her head that you feel you're being used maybe you should ditch her.. or if she tries again even after she says she understand you should ditch her..
that's my advice.. XD
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Hmm..good advice.
I have tried talking to her, but she blows me off, saying that I'm being stupid. So I am tempted to break the friendship off...except I've known her since we were 7, and she's the only one I feel comfortable talking with, even if she does use me.
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hmm well try talking to her again.. and you should use that phrase back at her..
'if you don't listen i won't be your best friend anymore.. ' i mean like best friends are suppose to understand each other right? if she blows you off again.. tell her to stop and listen.. maybe use a bit of force..
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Oh wow, I share the same problems with more people than I thought!
I have a best friend like that too.
She's been mooching off me since the 6th grade and has never done ANYTHING for me in return. She won't say that, "If you don't do this I won't be your friend" line but she'll do the "I promise to pay you back my bestest buddy!" line. 3-4 years later, I'd say she owes me about 300 dollars. Since I now no longer work (today was my last day JOY!) and all I have left in my account is 67 bucks (I had 500 in the begining of December...look how fast that dropped? Guess how much I spent on me? Only about 100 of it!) , I've been kinda hoping to get that money back. But now that she knows I want it, she's now saying crap about me and telling everybody, "What? I only owe her 150, probably even less! She's being so selfish right now! Besides, I have no money right now!"
And that is a total lie. She gets payed about 40 bucks every Saturday! I used to only make 15 every Sunday. Hmm, she's making more than me, and she is still making ME pay for her? And apparently I'M being selfish. Her other excuse was, "I'm saving up for Tay (her boyfriend [shiver] ) and mine's 6th month!" Oh please, they never spend time with eachother, and she's always off flirting with any other guy she sees! She's even done very disturbing things on my webcam while I was sleeping that I didn't know about until my brother walked in on her and told me about it.
She believes that it doesn't matter what she does, cause she'll always get away with it. My birthday party this year, she left half way through to go hang out with this guy she'd been talking to on MSN and she didn't even tell me, AND she took my shoes! She didn't even get me a birthday present, while I spent 50 bucks on hers in December! And on that day she totally betrayed all her friends. She ran off with her boyfriend in Sidney when she took us out to dinner (actually, she invited us out for dinner and expected us to pay for it all without even telling us, lovely huh?) and went back to her house and told her parents that we all ditched her!! And of course while we were all freaking out and trying to find them, I tripped and next-to broke my foot (it was like a sprain but worse...hard to explain). So when we finally figured out that she had gone back to her house, we walked (I limped) there and her step dad comes running out screaming at us going, "Thanks for ruining Courtenay's Birthday Party guys!" I was like, ".........You're freaking kidding me??" I was so peeved. She did the same at my friend Christine's birthday party except she took off at 3AM! At mine it was only 8 or 9PM. She also took my cellphone and, again, my shoes, and some of my make-up to go hang out with, here's the kicker, MY EX!!! Who, she says, molested her. HA! B.S!
Bah! Now I've just gotten myself mad. She steals, lies, cheats, just about anything. She also doesn't dress appropriatly for her "size" upfront, if ya know what I mean.
Wow, this has got to be the longest post I have ever...posted!
But yeah, I have no idea what I should do because I'm sorta afraid to confront her about all this because she has a knack for turning everything you say, and all your friends, against you if you say the tiniest thing that doesn't appeal to her. Geez.
I was 133 characters remaining...cool. I'm going to shut up now! Haha!
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i dont kinda think that a friend should be like that~ :P....if the "friend" of yours treats you like a friend~ :D
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Well, I mean, besides all that crap we have a really good time.
But I guess I should just count my losses, forget about the money (since I KNOW I'm NEVER going to get it back) and just ditch the b to the itch.
The Cons list is just Waaaaaaaaaaaay too long. Compared to the Pros anyways.
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omg endoh.. i share that same problem.. my so called best-friend 'borrowed' like more than $50 this school year.. and other people borrowed money too..
man i'm like probably over $100 short.. *sigh.. and i could have bought so much anime.. THEY say they're going to give me it back but so far i got nothing from them.. man and they KEEP on asking for money.. but now i'm saying no..
my best friend is always like that.. plus when she wants to borrow money and not pay you back, she'll go like can i SHARE with you.. man.. it just makes me SO pissed off sometimes.. ARG
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i dunno...is it a different society? itz juz that ppl in singapore aint so bustling and socialable, so money loaning among students is....well, i've nvr seen such cases in singapore~ :P
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well i'm not sure if it's all of canada.. but in toronto a lot of people don't seem to have money.. i mean like i'm positive that everyone in my school has either borrowed or leant money to/ from someone..
i have done both of course but i pay them back.. XP
i want to start charing interest.. >.<
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nice, and you'll start a bank soon and it'll become a multinational bank in the future, juz be sure to charge me low interest~ *cough*
then again....you can ask your friends to sign contracts for loaning...you know, or fingerprints on the contracts so you can claim back your money or approach their parents when they keep refusing to pay. do it calmly and seriously. perhapes the prob now is even gettin the original amount back...then you can add the interest if that's fufilled~ :D or you can get them to pay by installments but i'm way over my head~ :D
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haha.. a contract seems a bit extreme don't you think?? well the person who owes me around $50.. i can tell her parents because they're close with me and they don't know she owes me that much..
but then again she'll get mad at me and not talk for me forever.. and i hate that..
ARG that's why i hate it even more.. because she'll get mad at the littlest things that i do wrong.. i mean like if i don't go with her to her locker she'll get mad.. or if i don't lean her money.. AH!! i'm going to blow up soon.. and she ALWAYS eats too much.. man.. no offense but she says she wants to go on a diet but she's not even close in talking step one for a diet.. man.. she eats like everything.. lolz..
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*juz finish seeing the news*
well....your friend might be buying slimming pills like what i saw on the news...which aint good for the body...if you saw your friend doing that, it'll be better to stop her fr consuming more :)
now then...the prob of taking back the money by asking your friend's parents might end up on the wrg side: her parents might accuse you of lying and stooping to such lows to get money or such, coz if your friend decides to turn tales on you...well...that might be the conclusion and you'll have a tougher time getting your money back.... *in case of the contract, i'd say fingerprint & signature* imo the best course of action now is to strike at the source of the prob....that is knocking some truth into your debtors
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whoo those are really good points that i didn't think of.. haha..
well even if my friend tells my mom, my mom will know that i won't do that.. because she's close with my best friend too.. and she knows what kind of person she REALLY is.. haha
maybe i will do a contract.. but they know they owe my money.. it's just that they NEVER have enough to give me back that amount.. *sigh..
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I would SO LOVE to tell Shelly (My friends mom) all the stuff her "lovely" daughter has done AND how much she owes me. But, haha, Shelly tends to think her daughter is the Virgin Mary, so, it's not very likely that she'll believe me.
BUT I've thought it all through and this is what I'd SO LOVE to say to her right now.
"Hi Shelly! How ya doing? Oh yeah, your daughter sneaks out of peoples houses at night to either hang out with complete strangers she's only talked to online or guys she says has molested her. I really think you should tell her the fact that when she's over at someone's house as a guest the parents there are now officially RESPONSIBLE for her and if she's off running around with pediphiles and gets kidnapped those parents are gonna end up taking the blame for YOUR DAUGHTERS stupidity and selfishness."
"Oh, she's also stolen from me. Ya know, Make-up, Clothes, money, and anything else I could possibly think of. She dresses like a total "floozie" in public that makes everyone want to gag/vomit/throw rocks at her AND she owes me 300 dollars PLUS 85 for the cellphone of mine that she threw in the HOTTUB! It's actually 150 dollars but I'm being generous and giving her the benifit of the doubt that it was an accident. Just be glad I haven't added interest. Oh! And she's stripped on my webcam when I was sleeping. How did I know that? Oh, my brother walked in on her. "
"Err...maybe you should start thinking about disciplining your child so she's not so reckless. And maybe, JUST maybe, you could tell her the responsibilities of LOANING money and how you pay someone back when you take money from them!"
"Anyways, Shelly. I hope that everything I've said to you has gone to the heart. I really only came here to drop off all the things that Courtenay has left at my house and to get all the things she stole from me back."
"Oh, and next time you see Courtenay, if she isn't out on the streets in those disgustingly high stilletos and her "way too low for a flat chested person" shirt, scouting for pediphiles right now, could you tell her that we aren't friends anymore and that she should rid the world of her petty existance by hanging herself? Thanks, Shelly! Buh-Bye!"
I would be swearing, but I'd like to censor it for Shelly's sake.
Haha, I would SO LOVE to say that. But my loverly mommy says that if I don't get the money back she'll be calling Shelly since I've been upset about it for so long (I actually cried when I saw my account balance). Not that I'm obsessed with money or anything. I just have things I'd like to save up for like, Oh I don't know, A FUTURE!!!
Geez.
Oh, sorry for the yelling....I'm just sooo angry.
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whoo.. that's such an awful person.. haha i would go up love to go up to her mom and start saying all those things too..
man i think her daughter really needs to learn.. she's just too unreal.. and does too many things.. but if the mother doesn't believe you then it's going to be her fault in the future when something bad happens to your friend.
my friend isn't as bad but still does things she isn't suppose to do.. i swear that my friend could become as bad as your endoh.. if she was more 'pretty' i guess she would totally be like that.. man.. i don't even want to imagine it.. it's just gross..
but if i told her mom.. her mom would believe me and stuff.. she trusts me more than her own daughter because she gets into so much trouble it's not even funny. and she's not well behaved most of the time.. i don't get these people..
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Be acreful if you do that....you may think that her mum trusts you more than her daughter, but that's what she will always be...HER daughter. There are some types of bond that just sty strong, and she may feel pressed to defend her daughter, because she may feel that you're questioning how she's brought her up....
If you do tell her, be careful how you word it, so it doesn';t backfire
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thanks for the advice.. now i have to think more about it.. haha
but i never thought of it that way until you brought it up ruby-chan.. i mean like maybe their mother and daughter bond is stronger than i imagine it is.. now that i think about it though.. even if i tell her mom, i'm pretty sure it's not like i'm going to get my money back right away.. haha.. so i'll probably have to think about it..
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I NEED ADVICE!!!!
ok well my friend (lets call her S)said to me that she doesnt like (lets call her L)me and I dont know why! I told my friend C ( lets call her that for now) and she said its not true. I even told L that my friend S said that she didnt like me and this is what she said "No thats not true about what S said she is saying a hole bunch of s*** now." And so then everything was normal. But now she is acting like she hates me and she didnt invite me to her party and she invited everybody else even C and she doent even like her !!!! Now I have the feeling that she totally does hate me and it makes me sad :cry: and it gets me so MAD :angry:. I have no idea what to do! I need some advice A.S.A.P. And she even said to S not to tell anybody but she told anyway thta she thinks that B and C are self centered even though they r not !
but all I need to know is that does she hate me or not what should I do?
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I'm not exactly sure what the exact problem is. (the fake names confused me, haha.)
But I think I get it.
What I would do is just ignore her. From the looks of it, if she's inviting everyone but you, she wants to provoke you. Don't let her get to you and just pretend like it doesn't phase you. Eventually she might see that her efforts to piss you off aren't working and she'll stop all that.
Or, you could ask her why she's disliking [hates a little strong] you at the moment and maybe you can sort things out.
Err...OR you can ignore my advice and wait for someone more mature and wise to give you advice.
I'd go with the 3rd one, haah.
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Thanks for the advice I think urs was good.
I wanted to use the first letterd of their names because
I didnt want to use their first names, because u'll never know
if they will find out about it. sorry if it confused u I was trying to
make it as clear as I can.
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Yeah, I understand using "code names" hha. But while I was reading it I was like, "Uhh...darn who's S again?" and I'd read the whole thing again haha.
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I didnt think it would be this hard to ask for advice well typeing it bcuz u have to use fake names trying to make it clear I had to re-type it allot and thats as clear as it got :tard:. Next times Ill use real fake names instead of S and C. Because I also have another problem. :sweatdrop:
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umm cblossom.. yea i read the first sentence of your post and went like WHAT!!! and yea i'm not sure what your probably is.. HAHA!! but then again it looks like you already got your advice.. haha
code names are good but it's not like we'll know who they are anyways.. right?? i usually just say my friend LMAO!!
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I do want to say thier names but Im just afraid that they might find the website and hunt me down. But thet dont know its me so next time when I need advice Ill use their names but not enless its really personal or a seceret that is dangerouse that they r doing. sorry I got everyone confused.
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yea next time using name isn't bad.. if my friends came and hunt me down.. i would be dead.. HAHA!! and i get exactly what you mean.. haha
confusion.. i'm always in confusion so it's ok..
anyways.. i have a NEW PROBLEM!! hehe but it's something like cblossom's problem...
my best friend.. the one that owes me a lot of money and is really mean and a totally ***** hates my other friend and that other friend is starting to become really close with me.. probably closer than my best friend.. anyways.. i guess you can say my best friend is REALLY needy and clingy to me.. and i really hate it.. it's so annoying.. i have to go EVERYWHERE with her.. and 'stick' with her always.. and whenever i say i can't always be with her she gets mad at me..
anways back to the problem.. my best friend really hates my other friend.. and i really hate my best friend for feeling that way.. actually i'm really starting to hate my best friend. ARG she's pissing me off so badly now..
but my problem is should i tell her straight up that i don't care how she feels about my other friend, or stop being around my best friend.. or what..
also another thing about my best friend.. she's extremely jealous.. i guess.. at our dance a few weeks ago.. these two friends were with my the entire time.. and then all the sudden my best friend was like "i'm leaving" and of course i knew she was pissed off and me and ran after her and was saying why was she leaving.. then she goes like "because your other friend keeps following you.." and i'm like so.. you always following me.. but in my head of course..
i sort of want to tell my best friend to stop being so clingy and be independent.. and just yell at her.. haha.. so should i or continue being friends with her.. AH!! what should i do????
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Well what I would do is tell her that u have got to be so clingy and jeliouse all the time because u need ur space and u also have other friends to. OK that was a little harsh u can do that but there is also this.
U can just tell ur friend that "ur a good friend and everything but I really wish u would stop being jeliouse al the time and like some of my other friends to." I really dont know what to do u can to those two or can wai t for way better advice. I would wait.
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My evil friend is JUST LIKE THAT! Ya know, the evil one that owes me money?
I remember, before I got really angry at her, she would phone me practically everyday wanting to do something saying like, "We havein't done something in sooooooooo long." and I'm just like, "Err....you had a sleepover at my house LAST NIGHT and you left like 3 hours ago."
And whenever I'd go off and hang out with some other friends, she'd totally flip out at me saying I was "ignoring her". Oh please, get over yourself. My interpretation of her definition of "me ignoring her" is "Well, there was something I wanted to buy and you weren't here to pay for it so I'm mad at you."
Pssh, biatch.
And when I was mad at her and I was hanging out with my REAL FRIENDS during the breaks at school she started that stupid "messenger" thingy (ya know where she gets a totally unrelated person into the situation and has them become the messenger for her.) and had my friend Christine demand why I wasn't hanging out with them anymore. I just said I wanted to hang out with different people and it's akward hanging around my Ex. Again, she did the whole "messenger" thing and sent Christine back at me and Christine rolls her eyes and says she's annoyed with this stupid thing but still tells me (with a monotone voice, haha), "Courtenay says that you're being really selfish about it. And, for example, even though she and Becca aren't friends it doesn't mean that she doesn't hang out with her other friends." I felt like screaming at Courtenay, "Well, would you wanna start hanging around the guy that broke into your house and demanded to ...err...well, you know."
Argh! It was so frustrating. I still hang out with my REAL FRIENDS at break but sometimes I go back to the old group and just ignore her completely. I used to ignore Shane (my ex), too. But he's loooooong gone (he moved) so I'm happy.
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My friend's like that too - she always wants to go do anything. She'll ask someone else, and if no one's available, she'll ring me up just so she can beg me to go into town with her or something - I'm just a thing she uses when she's bored, and if I say no, then she says I'm a boring person...even if I just went up the day b4!
This may sound a bit weak, but I don't really agree with annoying people if they treat you like that though. It's too much like stooping to their level.
Endoh...perhaps you might need to rethink the ignoring part?
lika-chi....cblossom has some very good advice. Talk to ur friend, and try and make her see it from ur point of view
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By ignoring, I didn't mean the whole "pretending they don't even exist" thing. I just meant that don't show that what's she's doing is making her angry, cause I think she's just prevoking her. And then just politely ask, "What's with the attitude these days? Something I did wrong?"
If that counts as polite :shifty:
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Well, at least that's more tactful than what I usually say...
"What's up with you these days? You're really grouchy, you're snapping at everyone, and you treat me like dirt!"
Owch....I deserved her being in a mood with me for that one. But I just couldn't take it anymore, and I sort of exploded!
You know, like when you bottle something up for a long time, then it all comes pouring out? Well, I released a strom of 7 years anger on her, and said some other stuff than what I posted above...now I feel real mean and dirty....
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Yeah, that's why I don't bottle things up anymore.
If someone starts to piss me off, I just go out right and say, "No, be silent. You're annoying me!"
Or I just extend my arm and smack 'em. Either way is effective.
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lika-chi....cblossom has some very good advice. Talk to ur friend, and try and make her see it from ur point of view
I had given good advice. Cool I thought it was going to be really bad. :sweatdrop:
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NEED ADVICE!!
Ok I need advice again. Man do I have problems, well here it is.
One of my friends thinks that she is fat when she isnt at all. We tell her that but ahe doesnt believe us.
She is now eating less and less when she gets to the point of not eating lunch at all just drinks water.
We r afraid that she might do something worse like starve herself or eat and then make herself throw up but I dont think she will make her self throw up. At least I think....
Im worried about my friend and I dont think that she isnt the kind of person that would to something this crazy. What should I do to let her see that she isnt huge and stop her for doing something terrily wrong that she doesnt need to do?
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Your other friends and you really must sit her down and seriously tell her that she isn't fat because if she continues that diet, she is going to get really sick and that'll be bad for the body. I learned this in Biology. When the stomache is empty, it will growl telling the person to feed it, usually acid is thrown out so when the food is eaten, the acid will disolve the meal, but since she is eating less and probably the stomache isn't getting its food, it'll continue throwing the acid until it creates a hole in her stomache. Seriously, I'm not trying to scare anyone, but it's true >_<.
I also need help! How do you end a relationship nicely? Like you won't hurt the person with your words? I'm getting advice for my friend. Thank you all!
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Thanks for giving me advice Airi. :D
I wwould give u advice I really would but I never broke up with anybody because I dont have a boyfriend yet :cry: I would wait till someone comes to give u the advice.
But thanks so much for giving me advice Ill tell my friend about it.
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I need...help on homework :sweatdrop:...
we're learning genetics...I son't understand what homozygous, hetertozygous are, and what to write for the phenotypic and genotypic analyisis'...
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I can help you ^^ I finished learning about those a month ago ^_^ What do you need help on? Like specifically?
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i'm not sure if there's any advice out there that can help with this 'problem' but i'll tell you guys anyways..
my friend and i are really close but lately i feel like we're being more distant.. i mean like she's always with her other friends who i don't like and she has so many problems with like girls and stuff.. it's like she's a totally different her.
she's talks to boys most of the time too. i mean like i know she's changing and everything but should i tell her that i feel like we're distant now.. or should i stop being friends with her.. or what should i do??
i really like this friend and i don't want to break our friendship.. but sometimes she just doesn't get how i feel when she's with other people and stuff.. AH!! i feel like all my friends are growing up and are way TOO into make-up, boys, etc..
ARG!!! even my mom says that she shouldn't be wearing so much make-up right now.. haha *sigh
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I'm kinda going through the same thing....my friend started going off with other friends, and talking loads about boys...do what I did, and try waiting it out for a while. I did, and now we're back to normal...I guess sometimes they need room, and want to try out being different people.
Give her a chance, and I'm sure that she'll be back to normal.
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I can help you ^^ I finished learning about those a month ago ^_^ What do you need help on? Like specifically?
On the punnet squares...iI don't understand them, they're a buncha squares with symbols o_O;
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I'm kinda going through the same thing....my friend started going off with other friends, and talking loads about boys...do what I did, and try waiting it out for a while. I did, and now we're back to normal...I guess sometimes they need room, and want to try out being different people.
Give her a chance, and I'm sure that she'll be back to normal.
thanks.. i'll give that a try.. *sigh..
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That some times works but Maybe it's better to talk to her, if your as close friends as you say you are then as your friend she'll try and listen to your problems, just like you have when you two were close. Ok i got one teen drama for you.
i have a friend that's Sorta kinda pregnant. She's scared to tell her boyfriend because he might desert her. What should i do? Should i let them work it out or intervine a bit?
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I had the exact same problem with my friend.
The problem was, they broke up already....she did finally tell him (after I had to verbally abuse him on the phone to get him to come over) and it was pretty bad at first. He thought about it, and finally accepted it. But she ended up getting an abortion....[shiver] she just told him that the test was false. He was pretty pissed.
Hmm....it really depends what the guy is like. I can't guarentee that he might desert your friend, or that he'll be a man and take responsibillity. But he does have the right to know about this, considering it IS his child.
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THanks that helped. I told him that it takes a man to be a father. which is true an dhe just said he'd take care of it.
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I have a bit of a problemo.
Well I have 3 of my friends (5 the other two were some were) who got in a big fight with my other friend cassie. I do't know whats going on all I know is that when they went over to Cassie, Cassie started saying stuff like ur always treating me lik s*** and u all two r always acting like b****s and always leaving me out :lurk:. I had no clue what was going on till my friend told me that Cassie told Stara that they were going to kick her (stara) out of the group even though we r not. Bri said that they were going to kick Cassie out of the group because all she talks about is her problems and boys. Not likr=e there is nothing wrong with them. But thats not the point.
I feell like I either have to pick my friends Cassie side or my other 5 friends I dom't know what to do! I don't even want to be in this chaose! Only three more days(not counting the weekends) of school and instead of all my friends getting allong we r fighting. :boxing: :violent1:
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You only have three more days of school? I still have a little over a month left.
I've been in that situation before...Actually I'm still kind of in that same situation. Cause I'm friends with two "groups" and both hate eachother and I feel I'm caught in the middle. [sigh] Can't exactly give you ny advise because I can't even help myself...
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my best friend.. who NO ONE likes.. so i have something like that right now.. i mean like all my friends hate her and everyone else i know mostly likely hates her too.. i feel bad for her but there are times when i really find her REALLY annoying.. but we all just pretend she's ok and stuff.. and just say how much she bothers us behind her back..
AH that sounds so bad.. O.O uh oh.. well i guess you should tell them that they can't just 'kick' someone out a group because they're different.. i mean like my friends are ALL totally different from me and i'm cool with it.. if they truely find cassie annoying or stara.. then they should just leave.. i mean like it's really stupid to just kick someone out because they're a bit different and act different..
i mean like my friend totally changed into talking about boys, wearing make-up, etc.. but i can't just 'kick' her out because she's like that.. i guess what i'm trying to say is that they have to understand each other.. give each other some space then and it will just go away.. i guess.. HAHA
i really think you shouldn't choose any group of friends.. i mean like if they're going to hate you because you chose the other group then they're not really your friends.. you should stay friends with both groups and the two groups should just separate from each other.. this way you don't have to feel like you only have to choose one group of people.. i feel like that sometimes... and i choose to stick with the wrong people and i got totally betrayed.. *sigh..
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That's pretty much what I'm doing right now....but then one side will come up to me, "You've been hanging out with them too much lately....why are you being such a *****?"
[sigh] This is why I'd prefer being all by myself...at least then I wouldn't have people fighting so much because of me.
I'm a loner at heart
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i really hate that.. *sigh i'm a loner at heart too endoh..
i mean like people won't say that to me.. it's the other way around.. everyone ditches me for their other friends.. *sigh.. and before in like grades 1 to 5.. my two best friends hated each other and would umm 'fight' over me.. like if i hung out with one of them too much the other would be mad at me.. and it was so hard... till this day they still hate each other.. haha.. and they don't really like me hanging with each other.. one of them is the friend that no one likes.. haha
if i were you cblossom.. i would stick with both groups.. and would probably tell them that if they really hate each other then they should just leave each other.. you can go back and forth to each group and if one of them says to you that you shouldn't be hanging with the other group.. or something along that line.. i would immediately stop being their friends.. i mean like they have to understand how hard it is for you because you can't choose between freinds.. trust me on this one..
that's my advice or what i would do if i were you..
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Thanks for the addvice I hope it works. I have a feeling that tomorrow is going to be a LONG day at school I just want to get Monday over with tomorrow. There is another reason why they want to kick Cassie out of the group it's because she lies about everything like when she said that she was cutting herself and was showing us her so called "scars" there was nothing there. And then she says don't tell anyone about it but she is the one telling the whole school!! And she blames us that everyone knows. Everyone is saying that she is just saaying that so she can get attention.
VexNet that's mean what the bullies would do just because u would draw and watch anime.
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new problem umm sort of..
i got this friend who's totally in love with this guy that she met from this online game.. and no offense but she totally doesn't have a chance.. i mean like the way she explains it make it seem like he likes her too but i've talk with this guy and he likes someone else.. plus this guy live far away from her..
i can't really just tell her to give it up because that would be really mean.. and it's just annoying how she talks about him most of the time.. i think i know him well too because she talks about him all the time.. O.O man what should i do?? tell her to stop telling me all this stuff.. she's sort of obessed.. O.O i mean like making his picture as her wallpaper!!! O.O oh man.. and talking to him whenever he's online..
i see it was a brother-sister sort of love thing but i'm really scared of telling her so what should i do?!?!? AH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! should i tell her to give it up.. or just leave her be.. or what??!?!?! WAH!!!!!!!!!! i totally hate this love and like thing right now.. it gives me the creeps.. haha.. i'm going to stop on the whole liking and loving someone else thing.. i had enough already and can't stand the people around me like this either.. not that i'm not happy for them just it really creeps me out.. hearing about all these boys makes me.. *faints..
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Although you may hate it, I think you should just leave it be for the time being. Trying to talk some sense into ur friend might just damage ur friendship, instead of making her realise she's wrong.
But if this carries on over the next couple of months, maybe you'll seriously have to consider stepping in and talking it over.
Any help?
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CCassie is like that too thats all she ever talks about is Aston or whateve his name is.
Ruby Chan is right she gave good advice just try and talk some sense in ur friend and see what happens.
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thanks you two.. haha i'll see now.. i told my friend about this too today and she was saying how i should tell her right now
i also did haha some tarot reading.. but not many people believe in these things.. but i do readings.. hehe.. i got a not so good reading.. i mean like i don't believe it 100% but it's sort of right..
but i'll just see what happens over time.. thanks for the advice again.. XD
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Hmm...need more advice here please...
I'm gonna go college, and do things like maths and economics (yay fun!) so I can become an accountant...but loads of people are also pressuring me to go university. Should I do that, or just go staright from coll to a job?
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well it all depends on if you want a better education i guess.. haha i can't really help because i'm not really sure how since i'm only in grade 9 right now.. hehe..
well if you want to go to college i say go for it.. but i also think that if you're capable of getting into a university you should.. i mean like university is better than a college right?? i'm trying to get into a university..
ok i'm pretty sure that didn't really help you but that's the best as to how i can explain.. sorry...
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I think its good if u chose what u think is best for u. I know that ur getting advise to a girl how is going into 8th grade soon but I would still pick what is best for u and what u want to pick.
Thats the only thing that I came up with I hope that the advice that other ppl give u and I works if u take it.
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New problem!
See, my brother, Mark, who is now 19, is a Schizophrenic. He goes through insane mood swins, and he says he even hears voices sometimes. Because of all this, he's kind of gone into a loner type personality where he doesn't want to be around anyone because he's afraid of what people might think of him. He even dropped out of Highschool! He says he's going to try and change..he even took over my moms job at the church (custodian), but even then he's struggling.
But my question isn't about him. He's been like this for a while now....at least 4 or 5 years.
Everyone is always telling me how much I'm like Mark personality wise. And I'm starting to believe it. My mood swings are terrible! I'll retaliate at anybody! Hell, today I called my Math teacher a nazi just because he asked me to turn off my music! My insecurities are resurfacing, I don't want to be around people anymore (hence my loner talk the past few days) because either I'm thinking about how big I am, how mucked up my face is, or how frizzy my hair is... Usually I never cared about that, but now it's just overwhelming me. I'm "suffering" from malnutrition because I was starving myself and all I was drinking was diet shakes.
Sure, Mark wasn't going on about how fat he was (he's actually REALLY skinny!) But he was always talking about how insecure he was. I'm just more quiet about it.
I never want to get up in the morning (which is why I'm always late)....cause, believe it or not, I'm actualy afraid to go to school. I wish I was taught at home...less social expectations, ya know? I have panic attacks and I'll come up with some fake illness so I don't have to go....it just scares me, and I don't exactly have a comrehendable explanation as to why.
Then there's the drugs, and the drinking.... I haven't smoked pot in a couple of months, but (I think I remember telling some people about this) I caved with the drinking after 5 months of being sober about 2 or 3 weeks ago. It's tempting to just give up completely and just sit in the corner of my bedroom in a cloud of smoke and booze.
Ahh, but just when I thought I couldn't go anymore nuts...well what's this? Whispers in my head? Oh yes. Started about a week ago. At first I thought it was because I was sleep deprived, but then after getting a full nights sleep...I heard them again, except they were actually talking...course, they weren't comprehendable, but still. Voices! I think that's what is setting me off all the time. Because my so called "friends" are talking (and by that I mean, interrupting me whenever I try to say even the smallest thing), and then the "head bunch" are going nuts in my brain and it's stressing, so I'll just snap at whoever is around me. Or just walk off and wallow.
I haven't really told anybody about the voices thing. Even my mom doesn't know. Hell, she doesn't know about any of this (err...except when she caught me drinking that one time...but she didn't say anything about it). I want to tell her, but I see how she cries all the time about Mark and I don't want to add to it.
Say I'm overreacting, but I felt I had to get this out. And if anyone can help, I thank you in advance.
Sorry for rambling...
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Hi Endoh Ill try too help I dont give the greatesst advice but Ill see how it goes....
If you need help telling your mom about this then you should ask your mom If you can talk to her when she isn't stressing out or crying and tell her whats going on. You should make sure your mom knows sooner or later because the later you tell her the worsser it will be :(. Just like this advice I don't think it went that good you could take this advice if you want or wait till somoeone else comes. I would wait. :keke:. :sweatdrop:
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OK endoh here's some thing i know.
Your not schitzophrenic, what you have is depression
You mood is altering a chainreaction in your system that can go on for years at a time.
It's a good thing your admitting your problem because that's your first step.
I know i sound all proffesional , but i've seen and gone through with this so many times.
Next you have you tell your Mom like c. Blossom said.
Then you should try to have the friends you have surround you and give you support.
If your not willing to tell anyone then that's ok. All you have to do is be around them and feel secure
Even if you don't want to have anyone around. force your self to go out and mmet someone. The mall The park anywhere where thee are people. Little by little it will pass. Trust me. It's hard but if you need support. I'm here if that's any consilation.^_^
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Thanks, you two. It helps knowing there are some people that care.
I did tell my mom...er..kinda...my brother had another one of his episodes tonight and I told her that I was afraid I was going to turn out like him since some of the same things I feel are happening to me. She just said that it wouldn't, and kinda blew me off. Which I understand since I wasn't the one that was throwing rocks through the car windshield at the time.
I'll try again later when there isn't so much commotion.
As for the friends thing....you wouldn't believe how many times I've told them or at least tried to tell them what is wrong with me, and they completely snub me. Or they think I'm joking and just make cracks at it. I don't know if they're just trying that "laughter is the best medicine" crap but either way, it just makes me want to punch them in the face.
As for finding new friends...that's also a problem. Since my mom is at that, "oh my teenage daughter is at that age of sex and drugs and booze" stage. So she won't exactly let me go out very often....without a friend anyways, which is exactly what I'm trying to find!
Blah, maybe I'll be able to sort this through my head once I get some sort of sleep. It's been a long night (cause having to call the Crisis Hotline is always a joy!)
Well, I already knew I was depressed, haha. Actually I'm going to be put on anti-depressants real soon (then the only on in the family NOT on them will be my dad, haha)....
Thanks CBlossom and Looney for your advice....it means alot to me.
Cookies for you both!
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then i will personally fly over hehe to you endoh!!!!!
you won't turn out like your brother.. you're probably going through depression like looney said.. you know i had signs of depression all the time but i never am.. i'm always happy.. haha i guess..
as for the friends thing.. if they don't understand you i would just ditch them.. i mean what kind of friends are like that.. for the new friends thing.. try making friends that are ummm.. how would you say.. at your level.. something like you i guess.. and some with your interests are cool too... XD most of my friends all love anime and manga like me.. it's a great way to talk more with your friends. i heard that people should join clubs to find people with same interest. i don't know.. maybe you should give that a try.. i'm going to TRY to join sport teams next year.. and yea meet more people.. it looks like my friends meet lots of new people from sports or activities..
XD i have no idea what exactly i just typed up but haha i hope it helps sort of in a way. i don't think i even know what i typed up lolz.
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*cookies for Cblossom and looney*
Thanks Endoh, Ill as try to help you with your other problem.
My mom is like that to , I think half the world of moms are like that lol :keke:.
Well like lika-chi said you can join a sports team or find somthing you like.
Or maybe you can open up to people and try to talk to them. Ok I think I sounded like a therapist when I said open up to people lol :sweatdrop:. But it's worth a try.
If there is a anime or manga store around you them you can probally meet some friends there. If there are people your age them you can make friends with them too. :).
Sorry if my advice isn't that good, I think you can take lika-chi's advice :sweatdrop:. :keke:
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THankz hoped that helped. i know i can't really do much here but i try
Love you
Looney
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I'm not really good giving out advice :sweatdrop:...I'll try my best
ano...like as the others said, it would be best to interact with new people. Local bookstores, libraries, parks, places with people that share common interests. No, you won't turn out like your brother, depression is a common phase in human beings^^. I
I...Don't think I helped. All I said others already said...sorry.
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Nah, it's nice to have summaries of what other people have said...helps me get things into perpsective.
I think you will all be glad to know that I actually sat with someone during lunch!
And.....I actually had ...fun?
Wow, haven't said that in awhile.
We might even be planning something over the weekend. ^_^
Ahh...one step at a time...
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Yea Endoh!! She found another friend!! :hello2:
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Am I weird if I don't enjoy going out as much as other people? My friend always has to nag for me to go up town (unless there's a film I want to see!), because I just don't see the point of wandering round bored when I could be doing something fun at home.
So she keeps saying I'm boring...is that true? Just because I find staying at home more entertaining than going out every day?
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no, people have their own opinions about what is more entertaining and what it not.
Yey Endoh-sama!^^ I'm happy for you :keke:
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Ahh! I was sooooo pumped about doing something with someone over the weekend...
....but I have dance recital!
NOOOOOOOOOOOOO! [sobs] It's not fair, I tell ya!
Oh well, at least I was asked to do something....better than nothing!
That's exactly how I used to feel Ruby-Chan! I would think, "Ahh...I don't wanna go out. I'm just gonna hang around the house." That's kinda how I got into my moody depression though...but that's probably just me! Haha!
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So she keeps saying I'm boring...is that true? Just because I find staying at home more entertaining than going out every day?
Staying at home does not means that you are boring. I love to stay at home or say always during weekends or school holiday. Probably you are like me I can't miss my TV and Internet access!! This doesn't mean you are boring it is just like you enjoy staying at home like others enjoy going out. Going to school for 5 to 6 days a week, I feel it is the most wonderful time to stay at home :rotfl:....... Lazy to step out of house.
But problem of staying at home tend to make your peers find that you are boring as you don't go out with them, it tends to distant away you from your friend especially when they go out as a groups on weekend you tend to miss the fun that group shares and makes you the odd one out and distant from their discussions. Worse is when someone in the grp doesn't like you after a weekend outing it is like 'brain washing' others in the group may don't like you too.... (Birds of the feather flocks together)
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so true honey.
but you do what oyu want to do if other peope have a problem with it then they should deal with it
i also like to stay home but it's nice to go out once in a while.
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I have no prob going out every once in a while, or once a week...but my friend tries to drag me out every single day over the holidays, or on the weekends...sigh
But thanx for ur comments. I feel a lot better now. XD
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and your friend is right in trying to get you to go out, there is nothing wrong with spending the day outside.
In fact, some young people should get out more often I think :wink:
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If you go outside with your friend.., you easily feel more happy... mostly for young porson like you... :wink:
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i agree, i may be stuck inside but i'd love to make some friends and go outside all the time one day ^^
get out this miserable dark room *plots escape plan*
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Yeah, I WANT to go out with other people . . .but finding other people that I don't want to beat with a blunt object [repeatedly] is the problem for me.
And then with homework, and dance and coming on HERE . . .I can't seem to find the time, haha!
Plus the whole chronic depression thing that I seemed to forget about, haha ....err....
I try to ignore that last part.
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Really?
i never would've guess you sound so nice.
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Ahh, my violent streak can never go unoticed for long.
Eventually it comes out.
[evil scientist laugh]
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ha ha
that is so weird cuz they say i look like a real trouble maker. ( it's true i look likea gang manber)
But i'm sweet i would never hurt a fly. Only swat them cuz they're annoying.
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Heya, i'm needing some advice on this situation...and was wondering if anyone could help.. ^^;
I have a really good friend whom i had to part with a few weeks ago, because i was beginning University. So i asked if we could keep in touch, and she gave my her address and number, telling me to call her and let her know how i'm getting on at Uni and things..
Thing is i 'really really' like her and i plan to call her probably sometime this week or next. I have a problem though, i miss her so much, and wanted to invite her out to go somewhere or do something, but i just don't know what we could do or where we could go!
We've only really been out once before and that was for coffee, and this time i wanted to do something different.
Does anyone have any ideas!? ^_^;;
(I should also mention without being too specific, that she is also quite a bit older than me.)
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Umm....could you give more info? Is she a quiet person, or a loud person?
I suppose you could go cinema/ice-skating/shopping trip/amusement park?
Those are very general ideas though....does she have any hobbies or passions?
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Heya, i'm needing some advice on this situation...and was wondering if anyone could help.. ^^;
I have a really good friend whom i had to part with a few weeks ago, because i was beginning University. So i asked if we could keep in touch, and she gave my her address and number, telling me to call her and let her know how i'm getting on at Uni and things..
Thing is i 'really really' like her and i plan to call her probably sometime this week or next. I have a problem though, i miss her so much, and wanted to invite her out to go somewhere or do something, but i just don't know what we could do or where we could go!
We've only really been out once before and that was for coffee, and this time i wanted to do something different.
Does anyone have any ideas!? ^_^;;
(I should also mention without being too specific, that she is also quite a bit older than me.)
Movies tend to be good, since I would assume you would know what she likes in a movie.
Romantic dinners are also a safe way to hedge your bets.
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Umm....could you give more info? Is she a quiet person, or a loud person?
I suppose you could go cinema/ice-skating/shopping trip/amusement park?
Those are very general ideas though....does she have any hobbies or passions?
Well she's probably more quiet than loud...but yet she's pretty outgoing! ^^;
As for hobbies/passions..well nothing that i could really put myself up to.. I guess i was just really looking for general ideas.
Going to the cinema was really the only thing i'd think she'd really be willing to do....but, yeah, ice-skating did come to mind..but i'm scared to ask about that one because i fear her rejecting me.. ><Â She isn't round about my age..more like in her early forty's so i just don't know what to do..
Bet i'm sounding even more stupid by the second.. -_-;
Thanks for your ideas also Shinigami Zero!
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humm
do you any clubs around there.
you said she was outgoing so you could take her to a club
movies sounds really good and then later go get some ice cream
oh yeah the ice cream.
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Sounds like something I did the other day. Movie and then ice cream!
It's a nice, safe, combo!
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yup the perfect date.
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I'm reviving this thread, because a lot of people out there keep asking for advice - so here you go!
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Here's a change; I'm actually asking for advice instead of giving it. I have a problem. As the majority of you know, I hate my job with a passion! I like to call it the job from He**! Lately it's gotten worse. I was forced into my job because my mother gave me an ultimatum. Get a job or get out. She wanted me to get a job and instead of letting me find one for myself, she forced this job on me.
I was forced to work in a fast food restraunt; Arby's. It wouldn't be so bad, but I am a recovering anorexic, and I don't eat fast food. It makes me throw up, so when I started working there, I was very sick. I've gotten used to it, but I refuse to eat any of there food, with their salads as an exception. That's the only thing I can eat.
That used to be my only problem. Now, the manager that hired me is gone, and we've got a new manager. My previous manager was nice, and respectful. She didn't treat me like a disgruntled employee, but she's gone now. The new manager is nice but one problem. He brought 2 new managers with him.
One is a woman from Lebanon, that moved to the states. She seems nice when you first meet her, but if you're just an employee, she is very sarcastic, and loves to tease people. I wouldn't mind this, but the way she teases is a direct insult to you. It gets very annoying. She'll first give me a compliment, but then she's breathing down my neck and even though she has trouble speaking English, she talks to me like I don't know how to speak English. It's very degrading. Also, I hope I didn't just offend anybody on this forum that has trouble speaking English. I apologise if I did.
The next manager started working at Arby's at the age of 16, and is now 26. Too young to be a manager if you ask me. She first acts nice, but then she'll be very degrading. Once you get on her bad side, you stay on her bad side. She holds grudges with a passion, and she hates my guts. One problem, I don't look my age. I'm 22 and people say I look like I'm 16, so I am treated like a kid when people first meet me. She thought I was 16, and she began to treat me like a kid. She did find out that I'm 22, but still treats me like I'm a child. I approached her about this, and she pretty much threw a temper tantrum. She treats me like a child, and yet she acts like one. Hypocrite.
Ok, now the problem. I want to quit my job. I can't stand it there, and I don't get any respect. At least not like I used to. Despite this, my logical side is taking over, and is telling me to stay because I need the money. I'm starving because my parents take my money, and I hardly have any for myself. Try making $50 last 2 weeks. It's not easy. Also, I have bills. If I quit, I would have to get rid of my life insurance, which I can't quit because I got my insurance when I was 17, and it cost $20 a month, but if I quit and rejoin, I would have to pay $25-$30 a month. Granted it's not much, but I have trouble enough paying $20 a month, so it would be even harder for me.
Also, I would have to get rid of my cell phone. Now it sounds like I'm another one of those people who think that if they don't have a cell phone then it will be the end of the world. That's not it. I hate all phones, especially cell phones. If I could get rid of it, I would, but I can't. I don't have the money to afford a car, and when I go to college, I've been known to spend the entire day at campus when I'm not working. I need to call home so I can be picked up. If not, I can't get home. It's 30 miles to my campus, and there is no bus that I can get from my house, and taxi's are too expensive.
So to end this very long, and quite possibly boring thread, should I stick it out for the next 2 1/2 years until I graduate, or quit and keep my self-respect?
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Hmm..
I'm not much of an "advice-giver" but I'll see what I can do.
Maybe you could look for work elsewhere, but still work there until you can find something else?
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Hmm..
I'm not much of an "advice-giver" but I'll see what I can do.
Maybe you could look for work elsewhere, but still work there until you can find something else?
Believe me, I've looked. Nobody wants to hire me, and I know why. It's because I'm a college student. Nobody wants to hire college students for these reasons: 1) I can only work part-time, 2) They have to work around my schedule, and 3) I will quit as soon as I graduate and get my teaching degree.
Thank you for helping though.
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Have you tried talking to the new manager that you said brought this woman in? If not, a simple conversation may help. And if this doesn't work, I think you should talk to someone about the standards of your workplace. Sounds drastic, I know, but what you're experiencing sounds to me like mistreatment of employees, which breeches the human rights act, I think.
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The new manager is the one who made her a manager in the first place. He's had customers complain to him about her, but he doesn't do a da** thing. Besides, nobody would believe me. I know this for a fact.
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Aw..mozey-chan.. *Hugs*
I really think you should look for another job. The way you're being treated seems terribly unfair, and no one deserves that.
Hm, you said it was difficult finding anyone that would hire a College student, right? Instead of going out and looking for work elsewhere, have you tried advertising for work in your local newspaper? Or well i'm at University not College so i'm not entirely sure, but doesn't your College have some sort of employment on campus? Maybe you could work somewhere in that vicinity?
Well, i don't know if my advice helped in the slightest, but i certainly hope everything gets better for you!
P.S You're studying for a teaching degree!? Me too! =D
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Even if I do have skills, I don't have experience. People don't like to hire if you don't have experience, so I really can't advertise. Also, the only place they have at my campus is the same fast food restraunt. I am still looking for a job, and I'll find one eventually. I just have to hang in there. Thanks for the advice though.
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looney: by what i've read of you, you sound like a gang member/thug.
Moezy, can't you just get a job through a word of mouth inside a company?
That's basically how i and everone i know gets job easy. Someone works there who you or you parants know and they put in a good word. normally works.
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That's how I got this job in the first place. My mom was good friends with the manager.
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And maybe another of your parents friends?
Another option is to see if in your campus they can help. I've heard that sometimes they help students, mainly with getting jobs and stuff.
Sorry.. i s*** at this. snif
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It's alright charme-chan. Giving advice is not always easy. And even though I'm still stuck at my horrible job, the fact that all of you tried to give me advice is very comforting. I may still work there, but you guys really helped me to know that there are people willing to help me. I feel flattered.
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^^
That's very sweet from you. *huggs moezy-chan*
Hope you can find a way out!
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i need advice... i need to know what to do about the whole Heather and I situation... people are telling to me to give up and some say to stay in there... oh god its tearing me apart .... :cry:
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i need advice... i need to know what to do about the whole Heather and I situation... people are telling to me to give up and some say to stay in there... oh god its tearing me apart .... :cry:
Hum.. What happened? I guess I'm the only person in this forum that doesn't know..
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i dunno.. i guess i shouldn't talk about it, sorry
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i need advice... i need to know what to do about the whole Heather and I situation... people are telling to me to give up and some say to stay in there... oh god its tearing me apart .... :cry:
I'm trying...! (http://i22.photobucket.com/albums/b338/Tessaiga-W/Chibi/Chibi-sad1.gif)
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i know.. *hugs* but it's such a hard subject... Tessaiga, it means a lot to me that your even listening though... thank you.
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I need some advice and it's mainly aimed at one of my best friend.
My best friend has always been talking to people from the net and making loads of international friends. I thought that it was okay for him to make loads of friends from the net, however about 3 years ago he has been talking to a girl from the net and she lives in the USA, where as myself and my best friend lives in the UK. Theres nothing wrong with becoming online friends with that girl because she is sweet, loving and has a nice personality, but I thought it has gone to far because my friend has fallen in love with her for those 3 years! I never notice that until he told me 6 months ago. I do understand how much he loves her, but I thought it is going to kill his love life since he can never meet her as the girl is international. My friend gets upset easily whenever he never talk to that girl for a long time. I think he can never get over it as he has already fallen deeply in love with her?
what shall I do? I want to say to him to get over it and find a girl he truely loves in the UK, but he might think that I might be destroying his love life when I'm trying to help.